Should You Share Your Last Name on a First Date?

By Amy Andersen, CEO of Linx Dating

There’s a small moment that happens early in dating — so subtle you might miss it.

They ask: “What’s your last name?”

For many, it’s casual small talk. But for others — especially high-profile professionals, public figures, or anyone navigating a sensitive transition — it can feel unexpectedly vulnerable.

At Linx Dating, I coach clients through much more than introductions. I prepare them for real-world moments like this — where connection and discretion intersect. And when it comes to personal information like your last name, I always offer this guiding principle: You are under no obligation to share your last name on a first date.

At Linx, We Lead With Discretion

My style at Linx is simple: I do not disclose last names when introductions occur. Ever. I believe that meaningful connections should unfold organically — based on chemistry, compatibility, and shared values — not a quick Google search or surface-level assumptions. That said, once the date begins and two people are talking directly, they may ask. That’s why I always advise clients to be prepared in advance, rather than caught off guard in the moment.

When that moment comes, understand that some people ask without thinking twice — and that might be something you’re not used to. It can be as simple as them being used to adding your last name to their contacts. It doesn’t have to be a red flag. But if it gives you pause, it’s worth being prepared ahead of time so you can respond in a way that feels true to you.

What to Say (Gracefully and Confidently)

If you’re not ready to share your last name, you can still respond with warmth and poise. Here are a few options that work beautifully:

• “I usually wait to share last names until I’ve had a chance to get to know someone better — I hope that’s okay.”

• “I’ve learned to keep things light in the early stages — it helps me stay present.”

• “Mystery is underrated these days, don’t you think?” (said with a smile) And I have told client to blame me, “I’m not sure Amy would want us breaking her rules!” (Humor goes a long way).

These aren’t evasive. They’re self-aware. And they often reveal something meaningful — how the other person handles a boundary.

Privacy Isn’t Paranoia. It’s Strength

When someone asks your last name early on, it’s often well-intended. But you get to decide what you share and when. Protecting your privacy doesn’t mean you’re hiding something. It means you’re pacing things intentionally — and allowing trust to grow in real time, not through background checks. Boundaries create safety. And safety leads to deeper connection.

The Bottom Line

In early dating, you’re not just learning about the other person — you’re setting the tone for how you want to be treated. That starts with honoring your own comfort, especially when your personal information carries weight. So if your instinct is to hold back? Honor it. The right person won’t question your boundary. They’ll respect it — and look forward to learning more, the meaningful way.

Want more discreet, high-integrity dating advice? Let’s connect. I’m always here to help.

Dating With Emotional ROI: Why Stability Beats Drama Every Time

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Dating Is a High-Stakes Game—Play It Like a Smart Investor
In Silicon Valley, decisions are rarely impulsive. Investors vet founders, analyze risk, and seek sustainable growth before writing a single check. Why? Because resources are finite—and return on investment matters.

Dating, too, is a form of high-stakes investing. You're choosing who gets your time, your energy, your heart. But while many people are intentional with their portfolios, they’re often reckless with their relationships. They confuse intensity for intimacy, unpredictability for chemistry, and drama for passion.

Let’s flip that narrative.

If you want a relationship that grows, compounds, and adds lasting value to your life—start dating like a smart investor. Here’s how:

1. Know Your Valuation

In the venture world, valuation reflects potential, traction, and market fit. In dating, your "value" stems from how you carry yourself: your confidence, emotional intelligence, boundaries, and the life you’ve built.
If you don’t know your worth, others will undervalue you. And if you discount yourself, the wrong people will try to buy in at a bargain. Don’t accept a low offer just because the market feels slow.

2. Avoid the Sunk Cost Fallacy

Investors cut ties when a business isn’t delivering. In dating, clinging to someone just because you’ve "already put in so much" is emotional dead weight.
Time invested doesn’t justify staying in a relationship that’s not evolving. Let go of what isn’t scaling. Reinvest in something with real growth potential.

3. Prioritize Emotional Liquidity

A partner who is emotionally unavailable is like a startup with no cash flow—burning through resources and always in crisis mode.
Healthy relationships require reciprocity, presence, and emotional bandwidth. If your love is always in limbo or one-sided, it’s time to audit that investment.

4. Don’t Mistake Volatility for Value

This is where many people get hooked: the highs are intoxicating, the lows are devastating—and it feels real.
But in reality? That’s emotional whiplash, not intimacy. A truly high-value relationship won’t destabilize you. It won’t require constant repair. It will compound quietly, deepening over time. Stability is the new sexy.

In both business and love, it’s not about short-term spikes—it’s about sustained growth. Be as strategic with your heart as you are with your career. Your emotional ROI depends on it. 

Startups Aren’t the Only Things Scaling in Silicon Valley—So Is Love

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In today’s fast-moving global economy, Silicon Valley stands as more than a beacon of innovation—it’s a magnetic hub of influence, culture, and connection. It's where the world’s most visionary minds come not only to launch billion-dollar ideas but increasingly, to build something just as powerful: a deeply meaningful personal life.

At Linx Dating, we’ve long believed that love and leadership are not mutually exclusive—in fact, the most enduring relationships are often built on the same foundation as the most successful ventures: intention, integrity, and alignment.

Silicon Valley: More Than Just a Tech Capital

This region attracts some of the brightest and most entrepreneurial minds on the planet. Executives, engineers, founders, and financiers from across the globe come here with bold ideas and bold ambitions. But alongside the pursuit of innovation lies a quieter, more personal question:

How do I create a love life that’s just as intentional as my career?

That’s where Linx comes in.

The Global Appeal of Linx Dating

Our clientele isn’t just local—it’s deeply global. From Singapore to Stockholm, Dubai to Dublin, individuals seek us out because they want a partner who truly understands their world. They’re not swiping on apps or chasing superficial chemistry. They’re looking for someone who aligns with their values, mirrors their ambition, and thrives within the rarefied orbit they inhabit.

At Linx, we specialize in connecting high-caliber individuals across borders and cultures—always with discretion, precision, and a personal touch that technology alone can never provide.

Why Silicon Valley Matters in Love

What makes Silicon Valley unique isn’t just the innovation—it’s the ethos. There’s a quiet confidence here. An emphasis on intellect over ego. A preference for substance over flash. These qualities make the region not just a powerhouse in business, but also a deeply fertile ground for authentic, lasting connection.

Our approach at Linx goes far beyond lifestyle matching. We look for alignment in mindset, ambition, values, and emotional compatibility. Our clients aren’t just looking for companionship—they’re looking for a true equal. A confidant. A co-architect of their life.

A Global Perspective, A Local Legacy

While we’re proudly rooted in the heart of Silicon Valley, Linx operates with a truly global perspective. Many of our clients lead complex lives: they travel frequently, they live bi-coastally or internationally, and they carry immense personal and professional responsibilities. They need a matchmaking partner who understands nuance, respects privacy, and meets them at their level.

And most importantly, they want to be seen—not just for their achievements, but for the human being behind the résumé.

Silicon Valley isn’t just shaping the future of technology—it’s shaping the future of relationships.

At Linx Dating, we’re honored to be at the intersection of commerce, culture, and connection, serving a global community of exceptional individuals seeking exceptional love.

Because even the most brilliant minds deserve brilliant love.

Stop Hedging: How to End Your Date Like a Boss

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

So, your date is winding down. The conversation has flowed, you’ve shared some laughs, and there’s undeniable chemistry between the two of you. But as the check arrives and it’s time to wrap things up, many people feel a bit awkward. They hesitate, unsure of how to express whether they’d like to see the person again.

Instead of directly saying something positive, they hedge with phrases like:

“If you’re interested, maybe we could do this again sometime?”
or
“If you feel the same, I’d like to go out again.”

It might feel safer to soften the message, but here’s the reality: hedging weakens your intentions. It introduces uncertainty, and uncertainty can leave your date feeling unsure about how you really feel. After all, if you’re not clear, how can they be?

So, here’s what works better:
Be direct.
Say something like, “I had a great time. I’d love to do this again.”

That’s it. No conditions. No ifs, ands, or maybes.

Clarity is powerful. When you speak directly and confidently, you’re showing your date that you know what you want and are comfortable expressing it. This not only makes you more attractive, but it also makes it easier for both of you to understand where things stand.

Confidence isn’t about being flashy or over the top. It’s about being genuine and not being afraid to express yourself honestly. And believe me, that kind of confidence is what people truly find attractive.

If you're unsure, remember that you don’t have to wait for the perfect moment or overthink your words. Being clear about your interest is far more impactful than leaving things up to chance. So, next time you're on a date and you’ve had a great time, just say it. Let them know you want to see them again.

Call to Action:

1. The next time you’re on a date, skip the maybes and speak your truth. Say what you mean with confidence — and watch how it changes the dynamic.

2. If you know someone who might be struggling with expressing interest, share this post with them to boost their confidence for their next date!

Be the Bodyguard: A Simple Rule for Every Man on a Date

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Let’s keep this simple: no matter how your date goes—great, awkward, unforgettable, or a complete mess—you walk her to her ride.

That means:

• Walk her to her car.

• Wait with her until the ride share shows up.

• Escort her to a cab or a train station if that’s how she’s getting home.

• Don’t just offer—do it.

This isn’t about trying to score points.
It’s not about romance.
It’s about being a man with presence, with standards, with respect.

Why It Matters

In a world where people are more distracted and disconnected than ever, small gestures stand out.
Escorting a woman to her ride says:

• I care about your safety.

• I don’t vanish the second the check is paid.

• I respect you, no matter how I feel about the date.

Even if there’s no second date in the cards, you leave her with the impression that you’re thoughtful, grounded, and aware of the world around you. And trust this—women remember that.

If the Date Went Well? Even Better.

If you actually liked her, that walk to the car or the wait on the sidewalk? That’s where the vibe either fizzles… or builds.
It’s quiet. It’s unforced. It’s real.

Those final moments can be the most telling. Not just for her—but for you too.

And once she’s safely on her way, send a short text:

“Had a great time—text me when you get home safe.”

It costs you nothing. But it speaks volumes.

To the men: Are you doing this? Because you should be.
To the women: Does this register with you?