By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating
So, your date is winding down. The conversation has flowed, you’ve shared some laughs, and there’s undeniable chemistry between the two of you. But as the check arrives and it’s time to wrap things up, many people feel a bit awkward. They hesitate, unsure of how to express whether they’d like to see the person again.
Instead of directly saying something positive, they hedge with phrases like:
“If you’re interested, maybe we could do this again sometime?”
or
“If you feel the same, I’d like to go out again.”
It might feel safer to soften the message, but here’s the reality: hedging weakens your intentions. It introduces uncertainty, and uncertainty can leave your date feeling unsure about how you really feel. After all, if you’re not clear, how can they be?
So, here’s what works better:
Be direct.
Say something like, “I had a great time. I’d love to do this again.”
That’s it. No conditions. No ifs, ands, or maybes.
Clarity is powerful. When you speak directly and confidently, you’re showing your date that you know what you want and are comfortable expressing it. This not only makes you more attractive, but it also makes it easier for both of you to understand where things stand.
Confidence isn’t about being flashy or over the top. It’s about being genuine and not being afraid to express yourself honestly. And believe me, that kind of confidence is what people truly find attractive.
If you're unsure, remember that you don’t have to wait for the perfect moment or overthink your words. Being clear about your interest is far more impactful than leaving things up to chance. So, next time you're on a date and you’ve had a great time, just say it. Let them know you want to see them again.
Call to Action:
The next time you’re on a date, skip the maybes and speak your truth. Say what you mean with confidence — and watch how it changes the dynamic.
If you know someone who might be struggling with expressing interest, share this post with them to boost their confidence for their next date!