Dating Advice for Couples

Be the Bodyguard: A Simple Rule for Every Man on a Date

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Let’s keep this simple: no matter how your date goes—great, awkward, unforgettable, or a complete mess—you walk her to her ride.

That means:

  • Walk her to her car.

  • Wait with her until the ride share shows up.

  • Escort her to a cab or a train station if that’s how she’s getting home.

  • Don’t just offer—do it.

This isn’t about trying to score points.
It’s not about romance.
It’s about being a man with presence, with standards, with respect.

Why It Matters

In a world where people are more distracted and disconnected than ever, small gestures stand out.
Escorting a woman to her ride says:

  • I care about your safety.

  • I don’t vanish the second the check is paid.

  • I respect you, no matter how I feel about the date.

Even if there’s no second date in the cards, you leave her with the impression that you’re thoughtful, grounded, and aware of the world around you. And trust this—women remember that.

If the Date Went Well? Even Better.

If you actually liked her, that walk to the car or the wait on the sidewalk? That’s where the vibe either fizzles… or builds.
It’s quiet. It’s unforced. It’s real.

Those final moments can be the most telling. Not just for her—but for you too.

And once she’s safely on her way, send a short text:

“Had a great time—text me when you get home safe.”

It costs you nothing. But it speaks volumes.

To the men: Are you doing this? Because you should be.
To the women: Does this register with you?

Putting Self-Care into Practice: A Personalized Guide

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Understanding self-care as a personal curriculum is one thing. Living it is another. Here are concrete steps to help you identify, refine, and implement the care practices that are most effective for you.

1. Start with a Self-Audit

Take 15–30 minutes to reflect on the following:

When do I feel most like myself?
What consistently drains me?
What reliably restores me?
When do I feel calm, clear, or at ease?
What do I need more of—and what do I need less of?

Write down your answers. Patterns will emerge. They are clues.

2. Track the “Noise”

For one week, note moments when you feel agitated, foggy, overstimulated, or withdrawn. Then ask:

What preceded this feeling?
Was I hungry, overcommitted, overstimulated, or isolated?
Did I bypass a need (rest, food, quiet, connection)?

This process helps you understand your signals and what causes them.

3. Design Your Self-Care Menu

Using your insights, create a personalized self-care menu with three categories:

Daily Needs
Examples: 8 hours of sleep, 10 minutes of sunlight, a short walk, uninterrupted time alone.

Weekly Needs
Examples: creative time, therapy, dinner with a friend, decluttering a space.

Emergency Tools
Examples: “I’m overwhelmed” list—meditation, nap, journaling, canceling a non-essential plan, a phone call to someone grounding.

Keep your list visible—on your phone, your mirror, your calendar.

4. Honor the Quiet Needs

Self-care isn’t always glamorous. It’s often boring, repetitive, and deeply effective.

Schedule it like a meeting.
Build it into your routines.
Resist the urge to wait until you’re “burnt out enough” to deserve it.

5. Communicate Your Needs

Let close friends, partners, or co-workers know what’s essential for your well-being. For example:

I need quiet time after work to decompress.
If I seem off, it’s usually because I haven’t eaten or slept well.
Nature resets me. I’ll be taking a solo hike this weekend.

This builds relational support for your self-care instead of trying to do it in isolation.

6. Revisit and Revise

Your needs change. Your life changes. Once a season (every 3 months), ask:

What’s working?
What’s missing?
What can I let go of?
What do I need to recommit to?

Self-care evolves—your plan should too.

Final Note

You don’t need to earn your well-being. You don’t have to hit rock bottom to justify care. You are allowed to feel good without a crisis. Start by giving yourself permission. The rest will follow.

The Power of Distance: Rethinking Long-Distance Relationships

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In a world where relationships often begin online or across borders, many wonder: can love thrive when separated by miles? Whether you’ve met someone abroad or connected with a partner from a different city, distance often raises the question of how sustainable love is when the two of you aren’t physically together. Surprisingly, the evidence suggests that long-distance relationships (LDRs) may offer unique advantages and, in some cases, even lead to stronger emotional bonds than traditional, geographically-close partnerships.

Does Distance Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

The answer: Yes, according to research.

A 2018 study from Cornell University, led by Dr. Jeffrey Hancock, an expert in communication, found that couples in long-distance relationships often experience higher levels of intimacy and emotional closeness than those who live near one another. The key to this phenomenon is the way that distance forces partners to communicate more intentionally. LDR couples often engage in deeper, more reflective conversations because they don't have the luxury of spontaneous face-to-face interactions.

Moreover, a 2020 study published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships corroborated these findings. It showed that long-distance couples, while not always in constant contact, often report feeling more connected due to the quality of their interactions. These couples tend to engage in more self-disclosure and emotional conversations—both key indicators of relationship satisfaction and intimacy.

But Doesn’t Distance Create Communication Barriers?

At first glance, it seems intuitive that being physically separated could hinder communication. Ironically, however, the opposite is true. Research from The University of Pennsylvania suggests that couples in LDRs often develop more effective communication strategies. In a study published in Personal Relationships (2021), Dr. Christopher H. Smith and his team found that the quality of communication among long-distance partners often surpasses that of couples who live together. Because communication is typically premeditated and spaced out, these couples tend to engage in less impulsive and more meaningful exchanges, which can mitigate misunderstandings and emotional friction.

Additionally, the time between interactions can allow for more thoughtful responses. In their study, Smith and colleagues discovered that LDR couples reported fewer negative emotional responses compared to couples who saw each other frequently. This gap between emotional stimuli and reaction provides a “buffer,” enabling couples to approach challenges with more clarity and less knee-jerk emotion.

How Much Does the Distance Really Matter?

Remarkably, the distance itself doesn’t appear to have a significant negative effect on long-term relationship outcomes. A groundbreaking 2019 study in The Journal of Marriage and Family, conducted by Dr. Kate McClintock of Harvard University, found that LDR couples were just as likely to remain committed and satisfied as their geographically-close counterparts. McClintock and her colleagues followed hundreds of couples over several years and discovered that, despite physical separation, long-distance couples reported the same levels of happiness, emotional support, and relationship satisfaction as couples living in close proximity.

A similar study conducted by Princeton University in 2020 reinforced this conclusion. Researchers examined 1,000 couples, half of whom lived together and half of whom were in long-distance relationships, and found no significant difference in breakup rates between the two groups. The key takeaway: the commitment and emotional resilience of LDR partners are often just as strong as those in more traditional relationships.

Reframing Distance: Intentionality Over Proximity

If distance doesn’t detract from the strength of a relationship, it might actually provide an opportunity for couples to connect more intentionally. The separation forces both partners to prioritize their time together, whether it’s through late-night video calls, thoughtful text messages, or even just taking the time to share details of their day that might be overlooked in everyday life.

Dr. McClintock’s research also revealed that long-distance couples are more likely to develop shared goals and invest in their relationship’s future, likely because of the need to overcome the physical divide. When you’re not constantly distracted by the proximity of your partner, you can focus on building emotional depth and mutual support.

Moreover, a 2021 study from Yale University explored the role of emotional regulation in long-distance relationships, finding that successful LDR couples tend to exhibit better emotional self-regulation, which leads to fewer conflicts and greater relationship longevity. This ability to manage one’s emotions independently and productively is often cultivated in long-distance relationships, where emotional closeness must be intentionally nurtured across a greater distance.

The Bottom Line: Distance Doesn’t Diminish Love

In the past, conventional wisdom might have led you to believe that distance was a major obstacle to love. But as modern research suggests, distance might actually enhance emotional intimacy, communication quality, and relationship satisfaction. It encourages partners to focus on meaningful interactions and to communicate in ways that strengthen rather than weaken the bond.

The evidence is clear: while physical proximity certainly offers its own advantages, long-distance relationships can be just as fulfilling, if not more so, than those built on the foundation of everyday proximity. Whether you’re separated by a few cities or a few continents, the distance doesn’t necessarily make things harder—it can make love stronger, more intentional, and more rewarding. So, if you find yourself in a long-distance relationship or considering one, don’t let the miles stand in the way of what could become a lifelong connection.

How Prenups Are Redefining Millennial and Gen-Z Relationships

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

A recent article in Vogue highlights the rising trend of millennials and Gen-Z couples considering prenuptial agreements, which are no longer seen as just a safeguard for the wealthy but as practical tools for setting clear financial and life goals. If you're curious about how a prenup might fit into your future, here are three key takeaways from the piece—and some proactive steps to help guide your next steps:

  1. Prenups Foster Transparency and Honest Conversations
    A prenup encourages couples to discuss finances, family planning, and long-term goals before tying the knot.
    Proactive Step: Set aside time for an open, honest conversation about your financial situation, goals, and expectations for the future—whether it’s how to handle debt or your approach to career changes after marriage. Make sure you're both aligned and comfortable with the discussion.

  2. Prenups Simplify Divorce and Protect Future Interests
    While no one wants to think about divorce, a prenup can reduce stress, legal fees, and conflict if that happens. It protects not just your assets today, but also any future acquisitions or interests.
    Proactive Step: Research your state’s divorce laws and consider whether they align with your vision for asset division or debt management. If not, a prenup might be a worthwhile tool to customize your financial protections.

  3. Prenups Are a Practical and Growing Trend
    With divorce rates around 50%, many couples are proactively signing prenups—not just for asset protection, but to ensure mutual understanding and clear boundaries. New online tools make creating a prenup more affordable and accessible than ever.
    Proactive Step: Explore online platforms like HelloPrenup or consult with a family law attorney to understand the process and costs. If you feel a prenup could benefit your relationship, take the first step toward creating one sooner rather than later.

By proactively addressing these topics, you not only safeguard your individual futures but also strengthen your relationship by setting clear expectations and fostering open communication from the start.

Fun Date Ideas in Berkeley: Fish & Bird Izakaya and Beyond

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Looking for the perfect spot for a fun, intimate date night in Berkeley? Whether you're coming from Marin (just a 35-minute drive away) or are lucky enough to live in the area, you’re in for a treat! Fish & Bird Izakaya offers a vibrant and modern dining experience that’s ideal for a pre-theater dinner or a relaxed night out with someone special. But the fun doesn’t have to stop there—Berkeley offers a variety of date ideas that can easily follow up a great meal.

Start with Dinner at Fish & Bird Izakaya

From the moment you step into Fish & Bird Izakaya, you’re greeted by a chic, modern atmosphere. Striking black drapes, intriguing lighting, and a vibe that’s both relaxed and upscale make this the perfect spot for a cozy yet sophisticated dinner. The friendly staff adds to the welcoming ambiance, making it an easy place to unwind and enjoy a great meal.

The food? Simply outstanding. If you’re a sushi lover, you’re in for a treat. I had five different types of tuna, each one more delicious than the last. For those who prefer something a little more adventurous, the wagyu served on a sizzling platter is a must-try—it’s cooked to perfection and adds a little theatrical flair to your meal.

And don’t forget dessert! The cheesecake is a standout, beautifully crafted by a local chef, while the refreshing sorbet—made by a family-run producer in Japan—is the perfect sweet and tart finale to an unforgettable meal.

Vibe: Modern, sophisticated, and perfect for a date night.

Extend the Evening with These Fun Berkeley Date Ideas

After an amazing dinner, there are plenty of fun, interesting, and unique places nearby to continue the night.

Catch a Movie at Rialto Cinemas Elmwood

If you’re in the mood for a cozy, intimate movie date, Rialto Cinemas Elmwood is the perfect spot. This charming, independent theater offers a mix of indie films, foreign films, and occasional classics. Its old-school ambiance sets the tone for a relaxed and romantic post-dinner experience, making it a great choice to round out your evening.

Vibe: Cozy, intimate, and perfect for a movie night.

Take a Sunset Walk at Lawrence Hall of Science (Seasonal)

For a unique and romantic experience, head over to Lawrence Hall of Science. This spot may be more family-focused during the day, but the outdoor terraces and stunning views of the Bay Area and Golden Gate Bridge are the perfect setting for a peaceful, romantic stroll—especially around sunset. Though it’s a bit further out, it’s still just a short drive from Shattuck Ave and offers one of the best scenic spots in Berkeley.

Vibe: Scenic, educational, and perfect for a sunset walk.

Whether you’re wrapping up a romantic dinner at Fish & Bird Izakaya, catching a flick, or enjoying a peaceful evening with a view, Berkeley has so much to offer for an unforgettable date night. With its mix of culture, food, and fun activities, you’re sure to create lasting memories with your special someone.

Pro Tip: If you're looking to make the evening even more special, why not grab a coffee or dessert at one of the nearby cafes after your movie or sunset walk? Berkeley is full of charming spots that are just waiting to be explored!

Happy dating!