LoveStartsWithYou

The Beauty of a Thank You: Slowing Down with Snail Mail

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In the blur of modern life—where texts fly in seconds and emojis pass for emotion—it’s easy to forget the quiet magic of a handwritten note.

One of my favorite ways to slow down and reconnect with intention is simple, old-fashioned, and deeply personal: sending snail mail. More specifically, thank-you notes.

There’s something grounding about taking the time to express gratitude by hand. The act of writing slows you down. It demands presence. You pause, reflect, and give thanks—not with a quick thumbs-up, but with thought and heart.

I love everything about the process:
• Choosing the perfect card or stationery
• Picking the right pen (always the right color)
• Letting the words come in their own time
• Tucking in a small, unexpected detail—a pressed flower, a fun sticker, maybe even a pinch of confetti

Each step transforms a simple gesture into something ceremonial.

If you need inspiration, I highly recommend wandering the aisles of a place like Paper Source. Rows of beautiful card stock, specialty pens, wax seals, and playful extras make it feel more like a creative ritual than a task. And don’t overlook your local post office—browsing stamps is a small joy of its own. Find one that makes you smile or reminds you of the person you're writing to. It’s an extra layer of thoughtfulness they’ll absolutely notice.

But thank-you notes aren’t just about manners. They’re about connection.
They’re tangible reminders that someone thought of you, appreciated you, and took the time to say so.

And yes, it can be incredibly romantic.

Imagine falling in love with someone and receiving handwritten notes in the mail.
It’s old-school, deeply thoughtful, and delightfully intimate. There’s something about seeing someone’s handwriting—knowing they sat down just to write to you that feels unforgettable.

My parents were amazing at this. In the early days of their relationship, letters flew back and forth nearly every other day. There’s a rumor those love notes still exist in a box tucked away somewhere in their house. My sister and I have asked to read them (multiple times). We’ve been firmly told: absolutely not. LOL.

If you want to go the extra mile, melt a wax seal on the envelope. It’s a small, intentional touch—a beautiful nod to an old-world kind of love.

Is it a little random? A little romantic? Maybe.
But it’s also real. Personal. Beautiful. And absolutely worth it.

In a world that moves fast, this is one of the ways I choose to move slow—with gratitude, intention, and a stamp.

The Magnetic Power of Loving Your Life

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In the world of modern dating, it’s easy to get caught up in strategy—what to say, when to text, how to present your best self. But if there’s one truth I’ve seen time and again in my years as a matchmaker, it’s this: the most attractive people are the ones who are genuinely excited about their lives.

Do something that sets your soul on fire.

This isn’t just feel-good advice—it’s a dating strategy in disguise. When you’re deeply engaged in a passion, whether it's launching a startup, training for a marathon, painting, cooking, or volunteering—something that makes you feel alive—you become magnetic. Your energy shifts. People feel it. They’re drawn to your vitality, your authenticity, your spark.

Too often, we treat dating as a separate sphere from the rest of life, like a side hustle we're supposed to "optimize." But your love life isn't a separate project. It grows from the same soil as everything else in your world. If you’re depleted, bored, or chasing someone else’s version of success, your relationships will reflect that. If you’re lit up, energized, and chasing your dreams? That radiance attracts people who want to join you for the ride.

This is why I always tell clients: focus on being deeply in love with your own life. When you’re firing on all cylinders, doing work that matters to you and surrounding yourself with people and environments that feed your spirit, your dating life doesn’t feel like a chore. You stop “performing” and start connecting. And that’s where the real magic happens.

The right relationship is not something to hunt down in desperation. It’s something you attract when you're truly living in alignment with your purpose.

So take the class. Start the business. Book the trip. Say yes to the dream that scares and excites you.

Because your future partner? They’re not looking for someone who’s perfect. They’re looking for someone who’s real. Someone who lights up the room—not by trying too hard, but by being fully, unapologetically alive.

Let the love you seek begin with the life you build.