Shared Rituals of Connection: The Invisible Threads That Make Love Last

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In a culture that glorifies grand romantic gestures and once-in-a-lifetime stories, we often overlook what actually makes relationships last: the small things, done consistently.

These are what Dr. John Gottman calls “rituals of connection.” And in decades of studying thousands of couples, he found that these small shared behaviors—like asking how your partner’s day was or saying goodnight with affection—can mean the difference between lasting love and growing apart.

At Linx Dating, we coach clients to look beyond attraction and chemistry and into compatibility and ritual potential. Because you’re not just looking for a partner—you’re building a shared rhythm, a life, and a language of intimacy.

Why Rituals Matter

In Gottman’s research, happy couples responded to their partner’s emotional “bids” (attempts to connect) 86% of the time, while unhappy couples only responded 33% of the time.
What does this look like in real life?

• A “good morning” text that starts the day with connection

• A weekly walk that invites open dialogue

• Laughing at an old joke only the two of you understand

• A shared playlist

• That soft touch before falling asleep

These aren't just habits. They're tiny commitments to the relationship—daily reminders that say, I'm here, I'm listening, and I choose you again.

This Week’s 5 Rituals to Reflect On:

1. The Morning Signal – A greeting that says “you matter to me, first thing.”

2. The Micro Check-In – A short conversation that invites emotional presence.

3. The Joy Anchor – A hobby or habit that makes your connection playful and personal.

4. The Return Home – A daily reconnection that restores your bond after time apart.

5. The Goodnight Ritual – A tender close to the day that signals safety and love.

Whether you’re dating or years into a committed partnership, these rituals create emotional scaffolding. They make the relationship feel held.

The Linx Lens

At Linx, we don’t just pair impressive people—we help them build relationships that stand the test of time. We believe the future of love isn’t based on spark alone. It’s built on structure, practice, and shared intention.

This week, we invite you to notice:

• What rituals do you and your partner already have?

• Which ones could you intentionally start?

• And what small act could be your love language in motion?

Because love doesn’t live in words alone—it lives in what we do, over and over again.

Master “Cobbler” of Connections: Curated Matchmaking for High-Achievers

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Matchmaking is one of humanity’s oldest traditions—long before swipes and algorithms, there were trusted matchmakers - the expert “cobblers” of connection. Like a skilled cobbler who knows every shoe’s story and carefully mends and shapes each pair to ensure a perfect fit, matchmaking has always been a craft requiring patience, intuition, and deep personal knowledge.

At Linx Dating, this timeless tradition is alive and thriving. For over 20 years, we’ve dedicated ourselves to working with a very small, elite group of high-achieving individuals—primarily Silicon Valley entrepreneurs, investors, executives, and creatives—helping them find relationships that truly fit their lives and aspirations.

What sets Linx apart is the intensely personal, hands-on approach I bring to every step. I personally review each and every application that comes through our network. Not only do I hand-input all the data myself (a laborious process that few take on in today’s automated world), but I also personally respond to every applicant. This level of care and attention is simply unheard of in today’s matchmaking landscape.

Why go to such lengths? Because understanding every nuance—the stories, values, hopes, and even the fears—behind each client is essential to creating introductions that matter. This painstaking work is how I identify connections that others (including a lot of technologies as well) miss. It’s why our clients trust Linx with some of the most important decisions of their lives.

Linx Dating is neither about volume, nor about relying on technology to do the heavy lifting. It’s about real human connection, absolute discretion, and the artful craft of matching people with intention and care.

For those who expect excellence in every area of life, Linx is a trusted partner for finding love that fits.