Less Is More — The Art of Not Oversharing

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In a culture that rewards fast intimacy and public transparency, restraint can feel countercultural — even radical.

When clients tell me, “I just want to be real,” I always nod. But being real doesn’t mean telling everything at once. It means sharing intentionally — with timing, discernment, and awareness.

Oversharing can masquerade as vulnerability, but it often signals anxiety — a desire to accelerate closeness before trust has been earned.
The truth is, love deepens slowly. Discovery creates desire.

At Linx, I coach clients to think of dating as a slow unveiling. Each interaction offers a chance to reveal one new layer — an insight, a memory, a value. The pace allows someone to truly absorb who you are, not just collect your data points.

The couples who thrive are those who resist the urge to overshare. They don’t flood each other with stories; they build intimacy through curiosity, shared experiences, and time.

Real connection is not a tell-all. It’s a slow burn — two people walking toward each other, one truth at a time.

The Golden Rule of Dating: Why Treating Others the Way You Wish to Be Treated Still Works in 2025

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

When we were children, we were taught the Golden Rule: treat others the way you wish to be treated. It sounds simple—even quaint—but after two decades of working with some of the most brilliant, ambitious minds in Silicon Valley, I can tell you it’s also one of the most profound tools for building meaningful connection.

In dating, the Golden Rule isn’t just about good manners. It’s about respect, listening, vulnerability, kindness, and reciprocity. These five qualities aren’t abstract ideals; they’re measurable behaviors with real impact.

Respect: The Gottman Institute has consistently shown that respect is the cornerstone of lasting relationships. Without it, attraction erodes.

Listening: Harvard research demonstrates that feeling truly heard activates the same reward pathways as receiving money or food—our brains light up when we are understood.

Vulnerability: According to Altman & Taylor’s Social Penetration Theory (1973), when one person shares authentically, the other is far more likely to mirror it. This is how trust accelerates.

Kindness: Psychologists Finkel & Eastwick identify kindness as one of the most universally desired traits in a partner, across cultures and demographics.

Reciprocity: John Gottman’s “5:1 Rule” proves that for every negative interaction, thriving couples maintain at least five positive ones. Love is built on consistent deposits into each other’s emotional bank accounts.

The truth? Attraction can fade if respect is missing. A spark fizzles without kindness. And trust never grows without vulnerability. But when you treat someone the way you’d want to be treated, you create emotional safety—and emotional safety is the birthplace of love.

The Golden Rule is timeless because it works. In our fast-paced, tech-driven world, where swiping left and right often reduces dating to a transaction, slowing down and living by this principle sets you apart. When you respect, listen, share, and show up with kindness, you not only elevate your partner’s experience—you elevate your own.

Love doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes the rules we learned on the playground are the ones that carry us through life.