5 Types of People to Walk Away From in Dating

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In my two decades as a professional matchmaker, I’ve learned that people show you who they are very early in dating. The challenge is that when we’re hopeful, lonely, or dazzled by chemistry, it’s easy to ignore those early signs. But clarity at the beginning is one of the most powerful tools you have.

Here are five types of people I advise my clients to walk away from—and how to handle it if you find yourself already caught in the dynamic.

1. The Love Bomber

Lavish gifts, over-the-top affection, and declarations of love after just a date or two can feel intoxicating. But love bombing isn’t about building intimacy—it’s about fast-tracking trust so they can get what they want. It often signals insecurity, immaturity, or even manipulation.

Action Step: Slow the pace. Opt for grounded, simple dates and see how they respond. If they respect your boundaries, that’s healthy. If they pressure or guilt you, that’s a red flag.

2. The Breadcrumb Giver

They send a steady drip of attention—texts, compliments, vague plans—but never follow through. It’s just enough to keep you emotionally invested, but not enough to create real momentum.

Action Step: Be direct. Try: “I’m looking for someone who prioritizes meeting in person. If that’s not you, I wish you well.” Clear communication either prompts action—or reveals their lack of seriousness.

3. The Egotist

Conversations revolve around them—their career, their stress, their stories. At first, you may find their confidence appealing, but over time you’ll realize there’s no space for your voice.

Action Step: Redirect. Ask: “What would you like to know about me?” If they consistently deflect or minimize your experiences, you’re not dealing with a partner—you’re dealing with a performer.

4. The Window Shopper

They flirt, they date, and they enjoy companionship, but when it comes time to commit, they stall. You’ll always feel like you’re on display but never chosen.

Action Step: Clarify intentions. Ask: “What are you truly looking for right now?” If their answer is vague or evasive, trust it. Don’t keep yourself “on the shelf” for someone who doesn’t have the courage to choose you.

5. The Houdini

One day they’re all in, the next day they vanish without a trace—only to reappear later with a casual “Hey, how’ve you been?” This inconsistency isn’t a mystery to solve; it’s immaturity and lack of readiness.

Action Step: Address it head-on. Say: “Consistency matters to me. If you can’t communicate regularly, I don’t think this is a fit.” The right partner will step up. The wrong one will fade—and that’s your answer.

Final Thought

Dating should feel clear, kind, and reciprocal. The wrong people will drain your energy with mixed signals, ego-driven behavior, or half-hearted investment. The right person will bring consistency, ease, and emotional safety.

At Linx Dating, I remind my clients that walking away sooner isn’t failure—it’s discernment. Every “no” clears space for the right “yes.”

Character Is Sexy. Standards Are Everything.

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

In both love and leadership, character is the foundation.

It’s what sustains trust when charm fades. It’s what keeps you anchored when things get hard. And it’s what separates surface-level connection from something truly lasting.

Recently, I had the opportunity to hear General Stan McChrystal speak at Stanford. His message—rooted in decades of leadership and service—was clear: True character isn’t about being perfect. It’s about how we lead ourselves when no one is watching.

In his book On Character, McChrystal challenges us to push beyond performance and polish. He urges us to lead with moral clarity and personal accountability—to stop outsourcing responsibility and start living by the standards we claim to value.

The best leaders—and the best partners—lead with humility, conviction, and values that don’t waver under pressure.

And no one modeled this more fully than Abraham Lincoln.
He didn’t chase popularity.
He didn’t adapt to please the crowd.
He stood for principle.
He led with clarity, calm, and deep moral responsibility.

That same energy belongs in your dating life.

If you want someone of high character, start by being someone of high character.

That means:

• No more waiting for the “right” person to show up.

• No more blaming timing, apps, or ghosting.

• No more lowering your standards to feel chosen.

You have agency. You are not stuck.
You are in charge of who you choose, what you allow, and how you show up.

The moment everything changes is the moment you accept full responsibility—not just for your outcomes, but for your energy, your effort, and your standards.

Don’t chase chemistry. Choose character.

Don’t hope for integrity. Require it.

Don’t wish for connection. Build it—with someone who’s done the work, too.

Ask yourself: What am I choosing in love right now? And more importantly… who am I becoming?

Because in dating—just like in life—you don’t get what you want.
You get what you’re willing to walk toward with courage, clarity, and intention.

Why Matchmaking Matters More Than Ever: 23 Years of Curating Love with Intention

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Exhausted by modern dating? You’re not alone.

With endless swiping, ghosting, and superficial connections, many successful singles are quietly asking: Is this really the best way to meet someone meaningful?

I’ve been answering that question for over two decades.

When I launched Linx Dating 23 years ago, the dating world looked very different. Matchmaking wasn’t trendy—it was often misunderstood, even dismissed. But I saw what others didn’t yet: a hunger for real, lasting connection built on values, alignment, and trust.

Fast forward to today, and that need has only grown stronger.

A Thoughtful Alternative to the App Ecosystem

Unlike dating apps—where you’re expected to vet strangers, protect your own safety, and guess someone’s intentions—Linx offers something much more refined.

We handle the legwork.

We curate each introduction.

We protect your privacy.

We honor your standards.

Your time is valuable, and your heart is not a commodity. Preferences around religion, family, and lifestyle aren’t secondary—they’re central. Our process is discreet, personalized, and deeply intentional.

A Cultural Shift, Now in the Spotlight

The release of the new film The Materialists is just the latest proof that private, elite matchmaking is no longer a hidden service—it’s part of the zeitgeist.

In the film, a luxury matchmaker plays a central role in a storyline about status, love, and self-worth. While satirical in tone, it captures a growing truth: the smartest, most emotionally mature singles aren’t wasting time—they’re investing wisely in their relationships. The culture is catching up to what I’ve always known.

More Than Matches—It’s a Partnership

At Linx, clients receive far more than names.

They get coaching.

Wardrobe guidance.

Date feedback.

And quiet confidence that someone is in their corner.

Yes, premium matchmaking is an investment—but one that can transform your entire life. While no service can guarantee love (this is life, not a transaction), what I bring is 23 years of pattern recognition, deep human insight, and a rarefied global network of exceptional individuals.

Because love isn’t about quantity—it’s about alignment.

And when it’s right, one introduction is all it takes.