By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating
In a culture that rewards fast intimacy and public transparency, restraint can feel countercultural — even radical.
When clients tell me, “I just want to be real,” I always nod. But being real doesn’t mean telling everything at once. It means sharing intentionally — with timing, discernment, and awareness.
Oversharing can masquerade as vulnerability, but it often signals anxiety — a desire to accelerate closeness before trust has been earned.
The truth is, love deepens slowly. Discovery creates desire.
At Linx, I coach clients to think of dating as a slow unveiling. Each interaction offers a chance to reveal one new layer — an insight, a memory, a value. The pace allows someone to truly absorb who you are, not just collect your data points.
The couples who thrive are those who resist the urge to overshare. They don’t flood each other with stories; they build intimacy through curiosity, shared experiences, and time.
Real connection is not a tell-all. It’s a slow burn — two people walking toward each other, one truth at a time.