Stop Asking: “Does He Like Me?”
By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating
Stop thinking about that question altogether.
Does he like me?
Is he interested?
Did I do the right thing?
That question leads nowhere useful.
The only question worth asking now is very simple:
Do you like him?
Do you like how he showed up?
Do you like how you felt around him?
Do you like how he handled that moment, that conversation, that situation?
Do you want to see him again?
That’s it.
Why “Does He Like Me?” Keeps You Stuck
When attention is focused on whether someone likes you, it moves outward.
You start monitoring yourself.
You start replaying conversations.
You start adjusting instead of observing.
Dating quietly turns into what feels like some audition- and that feeling stinks!
And when you’re auditioning, you’re not present or in relaxed mode.
The Shift That Changes Dating
When the question becomes Do you like him?, everything settles.
Instead of approval-seeking, there’s awareness.
Instead of anxiety, there’s curiosity.
Instead of overthinking, there’s clarity.
Now attention is placed where it belongs:
How he treats people
How he communicates
Whether actions and words align
How your body feels in his presence
This is how good decisions are made.
Dating Is Not About Being Chosen
Dating is not about waiting to be picked.
It’s about noticing.
Assessing.
Choosing.
If something doesn’t feel good, respectful, or aligned, it doesn’t matter whether he likes you.
A Final Reframe
You don’t need approval.
You don’t need validation.
You need to notice how someone shows up….and how you feel when they do.
So pause the next time that old question comes up.
And ask the only one that matters:
Do you like him?
