The Power of Why: Reclaiming Curiosity in Love

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Children are insatiably curious. They move through life with an endless stream of questions: Why is the sky blue? Why do birds fly? Why can’t I have dessert first? Asking why is their way of learning, connecting, and making sense of the world.

As adults, most of us stop asking. We fall into routines, make assumptions, or fear the answers might be uncomfortable. But curiosity isn’t childish — it’s essential. In fact, asking why is one of the most powerful tools we have for growth, connection, and clarity.

In leadership, why drives innovation. It helps us uncover the root cause of a challenge, test the integrity of a strategy, and push past surface-level solutions. The leaders and organizations that thrive are the ones who keep asking.

In relationships, why is just as transformative. Why do I want a partner? Why did a past relationship succeed — or fail? Why do I struggle with vulnerability? Why do I chase certain dreams? Why do little moments matter so much?

When we dare to ask these questions, we illuminate the truth of what we value and how we connect. Why prevents us from repeating old patterns, strengthens our self-awareness, and opens us to deeper intimacy.

At Linx Dating, I encourage clients to reclaim their curiosity. Love isn’t about checking boxes or rushing to outcomes — it’s about asking the right questions along the way. When we embrace the power of why, we expand our horizons, align with our authentic values, and create the space for meaningful connection.

So I’ll leave you with this: What’s a why you’ve been asking yourself lately?

Because sometimes the smallest question leads to the biggest discoveries.

Dating Is a Tango: The Art of Rhythm, Tension, and True Connection

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

There’s a quiet magnetism in watching two people tango. Their bodies move with purpose—close, then apart, never chaotic, always in conversation. The most beautiful moments aren’t choreographed—they’re felt. Just like dating at its best.

At Linx, we believe dating isn’t something to power through or solve. It’s something to experience, much like a dance. This week, we’re exploring how the tango offers a perfect metaphor for building a meaningful connection—and what it teaches us about reciprocity, chemistry, and emotional presence.

Set the Frame: Know Who You Are Before You Step In

In tango, the “frame” is everything. It’s your posture, your balance, your readiness to connect. In dating, your frame is your self-worth.

If you don’t know your values, what lights you up, or where you draw the line—how can anyone dance with you? The most successful relationships start with someone who’s deeply grounded. Confidence isn’t arrogance; it’s emotional alignment.

Ask yourself: What do I stand for in love? What’s a dealbreaker—not because it’s a preference, but because it violates who I am?

Learn to Lead… and to Follow

Modern daters often feel unsure of how much to initiate or when to lean back. The tango reminds us: it’s not about who leads all the time—it’s about responsiveness.

Powerful daters know how to show interest without losing mystery. They take the lead when it counts—and just as importantly, they make space for the other person to rise, initiate, and reveal. A relationship built only on your effort is a monologue. Great relationships are duets.

Let the Tension Build

In tango, it’s not constant closeness that creates intensity—it’s the space in between. The step apart. The eye contact that lingers. The restraint.

We live in a culture addicted to instant answers and “closure.” But some of the most electric moments in dating come from the unknown: the slow burn of curiosity, the silence before the kiss, the pause that says more than words.

If you rush to fill the gaps, you miss the beauty of anticipation. Let tension exist. Let it build. That’s where real chemistry is born.

Don’t Dance Alone

Tango doesn’t work if only one partner is moving. The same is true for dating. If you're doing all the reaching out, all the planning, all the emotional labor—you’re not in a relationship. You’re in a performance.

Healthy love is reciprocal. It’s built on mutual investment, attention, and vulnerability. If you feel like you're always leading while your partner stays still, ask yourself: is this really a dance, or am I on stage alone?

When It’s Right, It Feels Like Flow

The best part of tango is when both people surrender to the rhythm. They're not calculating every move—they're feeling it. They’re attuned, alive, and present.

When dating flows, it doesn’t mean it's effortless. It means you’re with someone who matches your energy, your curiosity, your openness. That’s when dating stops feeling like effort—and starts feeling like art.