By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating
You’ve invested your heart.
You’ve made space in your life.
You’ve been patient. Understanding. Loyal.
But still—he hasn’t made a move.
Not toward exclusivity.
Not toward engagement.
Or worse… he proposed, and now the engagement lingers indefinitely.
At Linx, we work with exceptional women—smart, successful, emotionally generous—who want to build lives with someone extraordinary. And far too often, we meet them after they’ve spent months… even years… waiting for a man to “be ready.”
Here’s the truth: you can’t build a future with someone stuck in the pause.
1. If It Feels Like Limbo, It Is
A relationship should feel like forward motion—not a holding pattern. If you’re constantly wondering when he’ll step up, commit, or get serious, chances are… he won’t. Not because you aren’t worthy, but because he isn’t ready. Or worse, he’s comfortable—right where things are.
2. Words Are Easy. Watch His Pattern.
He says he wants a future. He talks about “someday.” But when it comes time to make plans, take steps, or define the relationship—he freezes.
A man’s actions tell you everything. If his pattern is avoidance, deflection, or procrastination, then you’re not his priority. You’re his safety net.
3. Engaged… But Not Advancing? That’s a Message.
We often romanticize engagements—but forget they’re meant to lead somewhere. If a man proposes but then resists planning, avoids conversations about marriage, or seems indifferent to timelines… that’s not “taking things slow.” That’s avoidance wrapped in sentiment.
You’re not “pressuring” someone by wanting to move forward. You’re honoring your life.
4. He’s Not Confused. He’s Comfortable.
This is the hardest truth:
A man who truly wants to be with you will not stay confused for years.
“Not ready” often translates to “not willing to change.”
And as long as you continue to give him everything—your support, your time, your heart—without requiring him to meet you where you are, he’ll stay comfortable. Because comfort costs him nothing.
5. You’re Not Asking for Too Much. You’re Asking the Wrong Person.
There is nothing unreasonable about wanting commitment, momentum, or clarity.
There is nothing “difficult” about setting standards.
The right man will feel inspired by your vision—not threatened.
The right man will move forward—not drag his feet.
Final Thought: You Can Leave the Waiting Room
The next level doesn’t come from nudging, begging, or outlasting his doubts. It comes from choosing yourself. From honoring your time, your value, and your desire to build a life that moves with intention.
If he won’t meet you there, step out of the waiting room.
Because the right partner?
He’s not hesitant.
He’s ready—and already walking your way.
