By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating
Most people don’t look back on heartbreak with gratitude. But in my case, a painful breakup became the unlikely spark that launched my life’s calling.
In the early 2000s, I was living in San Francisco when I met someone at a networking event. Our relationship drew me down to Silicon Valley—a part of the Bay Area I hadn’t explored growing up in Mill Valley. What I found surprised me: a social ecosystem unlike anything I had ever seen.
There was an abundance of eligible, accomplished men… and yet, a shortage of women in the same circles. His friends would quietly (and sometimes not so quietly) ask me to set them up. Meanwhile, my girlfriends in San Francisco lamented how impossible it felt to meet decent, available men. It was as if the puzzle pieces were scattered across two cities but no one was putting them together. That’s when the lightbulb went off: what if I bridged the gap?
From Connector to Cupid
Matchmaking wasn’t such a leap. I had always been the connector type—the person who instinctively knew which two people should meet. With a degree in communications from USC, some early career chapters in PR and finance, and a natural entrepreneurial streak, I realized I could channel my instincts into something much bigger.
In 2003, I officially launched Linx Dating. The name was simple yet symbolic: linking two people together, with the “x” serving as both a hug and a nod to Silicon Valley’s precision. What started with a few referrals grew organically into a curated community of some of the most extraordinary people in the Bay Area—and eventually, the world.
A Different Kind of Matchmaking
Forget the clichés of old-world yentas. Linx was never about volume or gimmicks—it was about discernment. My clients are brilliant, high-achieving individuals: startup founders, professors, C-suite executives, even international royalty. They excel in their careers but often feel frustrated when it comes to love.
Through personal interviews, guided reflection, and yes, plenty of “homework,” I work with each client to define the core DNA of what makes a lasting partnership. In the early days, I leaned on scientific assessments; now, after thousands of meetings and two decades of experience, I know that chemistry, intuition, and timing matter just as much. I often say 85% of what I do is intuition—fine-tuned from years of listening deeply, observing patterns, and sensing when two people are truly aligned.
Walking the Walk
Of course, being a matchmaker didn’t mean my own love story came easily. My single years unfolded long before dating apps like Bumble or Hinge. Back then, I was putting myself on Match.com, Yahoo Personals, and eHarmony. Obviously, I was never going to date my clients, which made things even more challenging. And for me—as a single founder and strong woman—many men were not comfortable with the idea of me running my own business, particularly as a professional matchmaker.
It was a very challenging journey. Ultimately, I decided to move from San Francisco back to Palo Alto, because I felt the community and lifestyle there would better serve me in finding my future husband. And I was right.
Serendipity struck when a friend set me up on a blind date with the man who would become my husband. That first date lasted nine hours. ;-) At the end of the night, he walked me back to my little apartment on Forest Avenue in Palo Alto and said he wanted to see me again—the very next day. Sure enough, we had our second date right away, and from then on, we were essentially exclusive. It was just right. Nine months later, he proposed. Today we share a beautiful marriage and a son. My own story reminds me—and my clients—that when it’s right, it truly is right.
Love, Curated
Today, I continue to do what I love most: helping extraordinary men and women find each other. Linx offers different membership tiers, from entry-level to highly bespoke VIP engagements that involve exhaustive searches across the globe. But regardless of tier, I remind everyone of one truth: matchmaking is not about guarantees, it’s about increasing the probability of love.
And many times, for the lucky few I get to call my clients, love arrives through Linx. What matters most is keeping an open heart and putting in the effort.
If there’s one final piece of advice I can offer, it’s this: don’t judge too quickly. Slow down. Pay attention. Give the person in front of you the chance to surprise you. Every experience—every heartbreak, every near miss, every false start—is a stepping stone that brings you closer to the relationship you truly deserve.
That, in essence, is the mission of Linx: to remind you that love isn’t a matter of luck. It’s a matter of courage, clarity, and connection.
