Emotional Presence

Can You Keep Up? Dating Someone Who Lives in Motion

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

There’s a particular kind of person you might come across in the world of modern dating.
They’re not waiting for life to happen. They’re already out there living it.

Always learning. Always exploring. Always in motion.

They’re the ones who book the next trip before they’ve unpacked from the last one.
Who read voraciously, take care of their minds and bodies, and view curiosity not as a phase—but as a way of life.

They’re magnetic, high-energy, and full of momentum.
But dating someone like this? It’s not for the faint of heart.

This week at Linx, we’re reflecting on what it means to be—or date—a person like this. Because while the energy may be exciting, compatibility requires more than just admiration. It requires alignment.

Let’s break it down:

They lead with curiosity.

This person asks questions that don’t come with easy answers. They’re always trying to understand more—about the world, about others, and about themselves.

They’re a match for someone who:
– Enjoys thoughtful dialogue
– Can share ideas and challenge perspectives
– Isn’t defensive when asked to go deeper

They’re not a match for someone who:
– Gets bored easily in conversation
– Finds big questions exhausting
– Feels uncomfortable without certainty

They live in motion.

Stillness is beautiful, but for them, movement is joy. They don’t seek busyness—they seek momentum. Whether it’s a business goal, a hike, or a new hobby, they’re in constant creation.

They’re a match for someone who:
– Brings initiative to their own life
– Finds energy in doing and exploring
– Sees their pace as a shared rhythm

They’re not a match for someone who:
– Feels anxious without predictability
– Prefers a routine-centered relationship
– Expects a partner to slow down to feel “secure”

They prioritize self-care.

This kind of person protects their peace. They may have early mornings, specific rituals, or structured weeks. But their discipline is part of their glow—it’s how they stay balanced.

They’re a match for someone who:
– Values boundaries and independence
– Doesn’t confuse structure with distance
– Appreciates wellness and consistency

They’re not a match for someone who:
– Expects constant availability
– Finds routines controlling
– Takes alone time personally

They are wired for discovery.

New cultures, new restaurants, new experiences. For them, adventure isn’t a break from life—it is life. They are often planning their next chapter before others have finished the last.

They’re a match for someone who:
– Feels energized by change
– Is comfortable with spontaneity
– Sees travel as a shared love language

They’re not a match for someone who:
– Seeks safety in sameness
– Fears the unknown
– Prefers “settled” over “stimulated”

They are not for the faint of heart.

This person doesn’t need rescuing, taming, or molding. They don’t need to be completed—they want to be met. Emotionally, intellectually, energetically.

They can be intense—but it’s a generous intensity. And when met with the right kind of presence, the relationship is electric, expansive, and full of life.

The Bottom Line

Loving someone who lives in motion isn’t about “keeping up” in a performative way.
It’s about having your own inner momentum—your own curiosity, your own pace, your own growth.

Because when both people are moving forward in their own lives, that’s where real connection begins.
That’s where the journey gets interesting.
And that’s when love becomes not just a chapter—but an epic.

Dating Is a Tango: The Art of Rhythm, Tension, and True Connection

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

There’s a quiet magnetism in watching two people tango. Their bodies move with purpose—close, then apart, never chaotic, always in conversation. The most beautiful moments aren’t choreographed—they’re felt. Just like dating at its best.

At Linx, we believe dating isn’t something to power through or solve. It’s something to experience, much like a dance. This week, we’re exploring how the tango offers a perfect metaphor for building a meaningful connection—and what it teaches us about reciprocity, chemistry, and emotional presence.

Set the Frame: Know Who You Are Before You Step In

In tango, the “frame” is everything. It’s your posture, your balance, your readiness to connect. In dating, your frame is your self-worth.

If you don’t know your values, what lights you up, or where you draw the line—how can anyone dance with you? The most successful relationships start with someone who’s deeply grounded. Confidence isn’t arrogance; it’s emotional alignment.

Ask yourself: What do I stand for in love? What’s a dealbreaker—not because it’s a preference, but because it violates who I am?

Learn to Lead… and to Follow

Modern daters often feel unsure of how much to initiate or when to lean back. The tango reminds us: it’s not about who leads all the time—it’s about responsiveness.

Powerful daters know how to show interest without losing mystery. They take the lead when it counts—and just as importantly, they make space for the other person to rise, initiate, and reveal. A relationship built only on your effort is a monologue. Great relationships are duets.

Let the Tension Build

In tango, it’s not constant closeness that creates intensity—it’s the space in between. The step apart. The eye contact that lingers. The restraint.

We live in a culture addicted to instant answers and “closure.” But some of the most electric moments in dating come from the unknown: the slow burn of curiosity, the silence before the kiss, the pause that says more than words.

If you rush to fill the gaps, you miss the beauty of anticipation. Let tension exist. Let it build. That’s where real chemistry is born.

Don’t Dance Alone

Tango doesn’t work if only one partner is moving. The same is true for dating. If you're doing all the reaching out, all the planning, all the emotional labor—you’re not in a relationship. You’re in a performance.

Healthy love is reciprocal. It’s built on mutual investment, attention, and vulnerability. If you feel like you're always leading while your partner stays still, ask yourself: is this really a dance, or am I on stage alone?

When It’s Right, It Feels Like Flow

The best part of tango is when both people surrender to the rhythm. They're not calculating every move—they're feeling it. They’re attuned, alive, and present.

When dating flows, it doesn’t mean it's effortless. It means you’re with someone who matches your energy, your curiosity, your openness. That’s when dating stops feeling like effort—and starts feeling like art.