Turning Setbacks Into Success: My Journey of Self-Discovery and Empowerment

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Life has a way of testing us, especially in relationships and personal growth. I want to share with you a story about how I turned heartbreak into one of the most empowering experiences of my life. This journey not only led me to create Linx Dating but also helped me understand that setbacks can be transformed into stepping stones. Let me take you through five lessons I learned along the way.

1. Embrace Your Own Fire

When I was in my mid-20s, someone I loved deeply told me I couldn’t pursue my dreams of starting Linx. He felt threatened by the fire inside me—the ambition, the passion, the strong woman I was becoming. Looking back, I now see that his insecurity was trying to dim my light.

But here’s what I want you to know: Your ambitions, your passions, and your fire are part of who you are. Never let anyone make you feel small because they’re uncomfortable with your shine. This is your life, your journey. Don’t let anyone stop you from pursuing your dreams.

Action Step for You: Today, take a moment to reconnect with what makes you feel alive—whether it's your career, a creative project, or something personal. Embrace that energy and let it fuel your day.

2. Take Back Your Power

When he broke up with me, to say I felt devastated would be an understatement. My dreams and world felt over. I couldn’t eat, I could barely get out of bed, and my parents rushed me to a psychiatrist to help me.

Little by little, instead of letting that pain define me, I used it to fuel my growth. I poured everything I had into creating Linx Dating, and that energy became the foundation of something meaningful.

We all face challenges, but it's how we respond to them that matters most. After a setback, ask yourself: How can I turn this into something stronger?

Action Step for You: Reflect on any struggles you’re going through right now. How can you transform that into motivation to move forward? Every challenge is an opportunity for growth.

3. Trust the Journey

At first, I wasn’t sure if Linx Dating would be successful. But I took it one day at a time, believing that each small step would lead to something greater. Trust the process, even if you don’t see the results immediately.

Success isn’t an overnight achievement. It’s the result of consistent effort, belief, and trust in your own journey.

Action Step for You: Take one small step today toward your goal—whether it’s learning something new, reaching out to someone for advice, or working on a project you care about.

4. Never Settle for Less Than You Deserve

He told me “no” and tried to clip my wings. He said verbatim, “You are not allowed to do that as long as we are together!” At the time, I thought maybe he was right, but now I see that I never needed his permission to fly!

Sometimes, people will try to put limits on you. But you’re the only one who defines your boundaries. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.

Action Step for You: Look at your life today—whether in work, relationships, or personal growth. Are you settling? Write down one area where you can raise your standards and take action toward it.

5. Gratitude for Growth

Now, almost 25 years later, I look back with such gratitude. That painful breakup didn’t break me—it was the fuel that led to the creation of Linx. Gratitude and letting go helped me transform my challenges into opportunities for growth.

Having put countless couples together—leading to tons of marriages, happy couples, and populating the planet with more children—I now see that my work has impacted so many lives in beautiful ways. In my personal life, I found my person who supports my dreams and created the most beautiful life and family I could have ever dreamed of. Sometimes, your most difficult moments lead you to your biggest breakthroughs.

In business and life, you will face challenges, but how you respond to them is what defines your future. Stay focused, keep moving forward, and never let anyone—or any setback—stop you from building the life you want, or in my case, try to clip your wings.

Action Step for You: Take a moment today to reflect on your journey. What are you grateful for, especially those difficult moments that taught you valuable lessons?

The Spark That Started It All: How Linx Dating Was Born

It all began in the early 2000s, when I was working a day job in private wealth management in San Francisco.  Every day, I interacted with brilliant, accomplished professionals, many of whom were single and candid about their frustrations with the dating scene.

During an earlier stint living in Silicon Valley, I had been surrounded by brainiac, overachieving men—innovators, engineers, and leaders in tech. Meanwhile, up in San Francisco, I was meeting equally impressive professional women—dynamic, successful, and full of heart. And yet, despite how much each of these groups had to offer, both consistently lamented how difficult it was to meet truly compatible people.

That was my “aha!” moment.

There was a clear imbalance, and I saw the opportunity. What if I created a space where these exceptional individuals could connect with intention and ease?  Supply could meet demand, and suddenly, a market inefficiency could become relationship opportunities.  An idea had sprung.

From day one, my mission has been to be a strong "signal" amidst the "noise" of modern dating — cutting through the chaos to make meeting “the one” less onerous, and actually… fun.

So in 2003, I left finance and launched Linx Dating.  It started simply: coffee shop meetings, listening closely, and matchmaking by hand. But it grew quickly. Word spread, the network expanded and the network effect compounded, and soon Linx became a trusted, discreet service built on intuition, integrity, and real human connection.

Twenty-five years later, that initial spark has blossomed into something extraordinary—a thriving network of ambitious minds and open hearts.

If you’re curious to learn more or are ready to find your match, visit our website linxdating.com.

Silicon Valley Delivers for Los Angeles: A Night of Heartfelt Gratitude

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Last week, Silicon Valley truly showed up for Los Angeles. My amazing co-hosts AJ Ghandi (Marlin Equity Partners), Neda Razavi (iSono Health), Lisa Keith (Golden Gate Sotheby's International Realty), and I were beyond thrilled to host a magical evening at the beautiful Rosewood Sand Hill for our Fire Relief Fundraiser.

The energy in the room was nothing short of electric, with 300 incredible guests coming together to raise a remarkable $100K for the California Community Foundation and Pasadena Humane. Our heartfelt thanks go out to our generous sponsors for making this night possible.

A special thank you to our talented entertainers—Lawrence Beamen, the dancers from Menlo-Atherton PTA, and Studio 650—for filling the room with so much passion, grace, and energy. You brought something truly special to the evening.

I was deeply moved by the outpouring of love and support from everyone who attended. The life and energy in that room were overwhelming, and I couldn’t hold back the tears of gratitude as I had the honor of having my parents, sister, and family there with me. It was a night I will never forget.

As many of you know, the recent wildfires in Los Angeles have left an indelible mark on our community. Between January 7 and 31, 2025, these fires devastated over 40,000 acres, destroyed more than 12,300 structures, and tragically claimed at least 29 lives. At the peak of the crisis, nearly 200,000 residents were evacuated, showing just how widespread and intense this disaster was.

Though significant progress has been made in the recovery process, including substantial completion of hazardous debris cleanup, the long road to full recovery is far from over. The economic toll is staggering, with losses estimated at $150 billion, reminding us that the need for support is ongoing and urgent.

That’s why events like these matter. Your presence, your generosity, and your unwavering commitment to the cause are vital to our community’s recovery and resilience. Together, we can rebuild, heal, and emerge stronger than ever.

To everyone who attended, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your support is making a lasting impact.

If you couldn’t attend but still want to make a difference, there’s still time to contribute. Every contribution counts! Click here.

Together, we rise.

A Heartwarming Success Story: Love After Life’s Twists and Turns

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

At Linx Dating, we believe that love knows no age limits. One of our most recent success stories—an inspiring couple in their 50s+, both with past divorces—tied the knot over Thanksgiving weekend after being introduced through our exclusive, referral-based matchmaking service. Their story is a powerful reminder that second chances at love can be both transformative and deeply fulfilling.

The Power of Second Chances After Divorce

For many, particularly those who have experienced divorce, the prospect of dating again can feel daunting. The emotional complexities of navigating a new relationship—especially with children involved—can make starting over seem overwhelming. However, this couple’s journey is proof that love after divorce is not only possible, but often richer and more meaningful.

Research from Stanford University highlights the emotional maturity that many individuals gain after experiencing divorce. Their findings suggest that people who remarry later in life tend to have a more realistic and grounded approach to relationships. With personal growth and greater clarity on what truly matters, these individuals often experience higher satisfaction in their second marriages (Stanford Center on Longevity, 2016).

This couple’s relationship blossomed because they chose to embrace the complexities of their pasts and approach dating with an open heart. Both had navigated the challenges of divorce and the intricate dynamics of co-parenting—proving that love is resilient, even when life presents its most difficult turns.

Managing the Complexities of High-Profile Divorces

For many professionals in Silicon Valley, the challenges of dating post-divorce extend beyond emotional complexities. High-profile divorces often come with a sense of public scrutiny, leading to feelings of isolation. This can be especially difficult for individuals who are accustomed to a busy, high-stakes career and a social circle that may not fully understand their unique experience.

A Stanford Graduate School of Business study on high-profile divorcees found that the pressure of public visibility can lead to heightened emotional stress and loneliness. Many people in these positions report feeling disconnected from others, even as they navigate dating in the public eye (Stanford, 2021). For those in such situations, the idea of returning to dating apps is unappealing. These platforms often lack the privacy, personalization, and selectivity that professionals need.

That’s where a trusted matchmaker, like Linx Dating, offers immense value. We provide a level of discretion and care that allows clients to explore meaningful relationships without the pressure of public attention or the endless, impersonal swiping of dating apps.

Why the Right Matchmaker Makes All the Difference

Unlike traditional dating services, Linx Dating takes a bespoke approach to matchmaking. Our service goes beyond surface-level compatibility, focusing on a holistic view of each client’s life, values, and relationship goals. For those navigating post-divorce dating—particularly with children—finding a partner who understands the full scope of their responsibilities and aspirations is critical.

Dr. Thomas Bradbury, a leading Stanford relationship expert, emphasizes that the foundation of long-lasting relationships—especially after major life changes like divorce—lies in emotional intimacy, shared values, and mutual respect. His research suggests that couples who face challenges together, such as co-parenting or dating later in life, develop deeper emotional bonds and greater resilience in the face of adversity (Bradbury & Karney, 2004).

This is why working with a matchmaker who understands the nuances of your life and needs is so important. At Linx Dating, we help our clients navigate the complexities of modern relationships, fostering authentic connections that prioritize emotional compatibility and long-term happiness.

A New Beginning Awaits

Whether you’ve experienced a divorce, are navigating co-parenting, or simply haven’t found the right person yet, it’s never too late to begin a new chapter. For high-profile professionals—especially those in Silicon Valley—a trusted matchmaker can offer the privacy, care, and expertise needed to find genuine, lasting love.

Stanford research also supports that individuals who engage in professional matchmaking services are more likely to form successful, long-term relationships. Personalized matchmaking that takes into account your values, lifestyle, and relationship goals increases the likelihood of lasting happiness (Stanford Center on Longevity, 2022).

If you're a successful professional ready to find love again, no matter your past experiences, I’d be honored to help you take that next step. True connection can happen at any stage, and your story is still unfolding. Let 2025 be the year you find the love you’ve been waiting for.

Let’s Make It Happen

Reach out today, and together, let’s begin the next chapter of your love story.

References:

• Stanford Center on Longevity. (2016). The Psychology of Remarriage: Why Second Marriages Can Be Stronger. Stanford University.

• Stanford Graduate School of Business. (2021). Divorce and Public Life: The Struggles of High-Profile Professionals. Stanford University.

• Bradbury, T. N., & Karney, B. R. (2004). Intimate Relationships and the Role of Conflict in Marital Satisfaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 86(4), 671-684.

• Stanford Center on Longevity. (2022). Relationship Satisfaction and the Role of Professional Matchmaking Services. Stanford University.

Celebrating 20 Years Of Love and Matchmaking

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

I recently hosted an incredibly memorable event at the Rosewood Sand Hill Hotel memorializing over two decades of my running Linx Dating.

The Rosewood is particularly symbolic for me as I hosted one of the original private events at the hotel when it opened in 2009. Vanity Fair magazine got wind of the excitement of my Link & Drink and ended up doing a feature on love in Silicon Valley that became a global sensation.

Over 120 members of the Linx network helped me celebrate 20 incredible years of love and matchmaking in Silicon Valley and reminded me how beyond grateful and honored I am to wear the title of Cupid of Silicon Valley.

My small but mighty team Dani Geary and Caroline Novia stood by my side and, collectively, we made our guests feel warm, welcome, and appreciated for how wonderful they are! Our guests networked and made excellent professional connections and, as in true Link & Drink fashion, we witnessed some sparks potentially blossoming into love connections.

As my toast illuminated, it’s hard for me to articulate how deeply meaningful my business is to me. It has been the source of such deep satisfaction to me over the years. But far beyond me, I also wanted to make it clear how grateful I am for your supporting our local community and female run businesses.

Cheers to another 20 years of matchmaking and spreading more love in this world!

I’ve been deeply touched by all the praise and kind words shared after the event. It’s incredibly fulfilling to know that our efforts have resonated with so many and created truly memorable experiences.

"Thank you for hosting in such a beautiful setting, a true pleasure to attend and meeting so many interesting people as well. Wishing you a happy 20th celebration of Linx and with many more successful years to come!"

"Thank you for the invitation to your 20 year anniversary of Linx. You are an inspiration to women business owners and your care, attention, and sincerity are evident in all that you do. I had a lovely time. Thank you again for the invitation and I wish you, and your lovely team much success!” 

“To honor you as you have done so much for us. You are so special to me. A sister from another mister;) I love you and I celebrate all the magic you do in the world. Xoxox” 

"Thank you for hosting in such a beautiful setting, a true pleasure to attend and meeting so many interesting people as well. Wishing you a happy 20th celebration of Linx and with many more successful years to come!"

"Thank you so much for putting on and inviting me to the 20th year anniversary celebration of Linx.  The locale, mix of people, drinks/appetizers/desserts were all amazing.  You were receiving major kudos from everyone regarding your professionalism, kindness, responsiveness and making a difference in people's lives.  Here's to the next 20 years!  :-)"

"Amy - I am really looking forward to being there to celebrate a true success story of American Entrepreneurism! Cheers!!” 

“Dear Amy, Congrats to Linx’s 20th year anniversary! Your vision, hard work, and dedication has brought success and impacted so many lives for the better. We celebrate this milestone with you!” 

“Congrats on everything! Thank you for all you're done for love around the world!” 

“I am so proud of all your accomplishments and be the countless marriages and children that have some about from all you hard work and passion cultivating love in this world.”  

“Congratulations on 20 incredible years! Through your vision, passion, and extraordinary talent, Linx has become a trusted haven where people discover the beauty of deep, meaningful relationships.” 

“You should be very proud of building a maintaining a district, high-end luxury service brand with premium pricing as a TRUE entrepreneur! EXTREME congrats for 20 years!” 

"It was a terrific event and I had the opportunity to meet some interesting people! I also want to give you my congratulations (again) on achieving 20 years of success! I think Linx Dating must literally be a labor of love because in at least one way it is a terrible business proposition - if you do your job well, you will have zero repeat customers! Nevertheless, I saw that you have an enthusiastic fan club so you are clearly doing a lot of things right.” 

"Thanks again for including me in your 20th Anniversary event. It was so lovely interacting with the wonderful community you've created and hearing all the well-deserved accolades. (Talk about an Amy fan club!)  I look forward to seeing you again soon and wish you continued happiness and success ahead.  Sending kudos and big hugs!” 

"It was an absolute pleasure meeting you in person last week at your unforgettable event at the Rosewood Sand Hill Hotel. I am truly honored to have been part of such a special occasion, celebrating over two decades of Linx Dating's remarkable journey.” 

“I am incredibly grateful for the opportunity to connect with you, your wonderful team, and the extraordinary people you bring together. Your passion for fostering connections and love in Silicon Valley is truly inspiring, and I am so glad you enjoyed my card and gift. The warmth, energy, and genuine care that you, Dani, and Caroline extended to everyone was deeply felt.”

“Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture from the event—it captures the essence of the celebration and the incredible memories we created together. I’m so looking forward to seeing you again at next week’s event and continuing to support your mission of spreading love and connection.” 

In a delightful surprise that left guests buzzing, Monika Spruch of Catwalk Opera graced the stage with a breathtaking performance at our event. Her enchanting voice and stage presence truly made her one of the highlights of the evening!