The Power of Why: Reclaiming Curiosity in Love

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

Children are insatiably curious. They move through life with an endless stream of questions: Why is the sky blue? Why do birds fly? Why can’t I have dessert first? Asking why is their way of learning, connecting, and making sense of the world.

As adults, most of us stop asking. We fall into routines, make assumptions, or fear the answers might be uncomfortable. But curiosity isn’t childish — it’s essential. In fact, asking why is one of the most powerful tools we have for growth, connection, and clarity.

In leadership, why drives innovation. It helps us uncover the root cause of a challenge, test the integrity of a strategy, and push past surface-level solutions. The leaders and organizations that thrive are the ones who keep asking.

In relationships, why is just as transformative. Why do I want a partner? Why did a past relationship succeed — or fail? Why do I struggle with vulnerability? Why do I chase certain dreams? Why do little moments matter so much?

When we dare to ask these questions, we illuminate the truth of what we value and how we connect. Why prevents us from repeating old patterns, strengthens our self-awareness, and opens us to deeper intimacy.

At Linx Dating, I encourage clients to reclaim their curiosity. Love isn’t about checking boxes or rushing to outcomes — it’s about asking the right questions along the way. When we embrace the power of why, we expand our horizons, align with our authentic values, and create the space for meaningful connection.

So I’ll leave you with this: What’s a why you’ve been asking yourself lately?

Because sometimes the smallest question leads to the biggest discoveries.

From Spark to Substance: Four Conversations That Reveal Real Compatibility

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

The first couple of dates are filled with lightness — stories, laughs, surface-level discoveries. That’s exactly how attraction grows. But if by the third or fourth date you’re still talking only about favorite restaurants or vacation spots, you might be missing a bigger opportunity.

This is the moment to begin weaving in deeper themes. Not with an interrogation, but with curiosity. The goal is not to rush — it’s to open gentle doors into one another’s inner worlds.

Here are four conversations I encourage clients to explore:

• Passion & Purpose – What gives you energy right now? What purpose excites you?

• Guilt & Regret – What’s something you’ve had to forgive yourself for? How has guilt shaped you?

• Identity & Self-Discovery – When do you feel most like yourself? Have you surprised yourself by growing into a new version of you?

• Love & Values – What value matters most in a relationship? Kindness, honesty, family, growth?

The magic comes when you share first. Vulnerability builds trust, and when you offer your story, you create space for your date to do the same.

The point isn’t the “perfect” answer. It’s how you feel in the moment: Do you feel safe? Curious? Inspired? Do you feel understood?

By Date 3 or 4, you still want the butterflies. But you also want to know whether love has roots. When two people are willing to go a little deeper, that’s when chemistry transforms into true compatibility.

Love isn’t just in the spark — it’s in the courage to go deeper, even early on.

Real Love Is a Soft Landing, Not a Tightrope

By Amy Andersen, Founder and CEO of Linx Dating

We live in a culture that often mistakes intensity for intimacy.
But in my work as a matchmaker—and in my own life—the relationships that last are not the ones filled with drama, ambiguity, or constant performance.

They’re the ones that feel… peaceful.

Real love is a soft landing. Not a tightrope.

You shouldn’t feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time, bracing for the next reaction or filtering every word. That’s emotional tension—not emotional safety.

The healthiest relationships offer:

• Room to breathe

• Space to be fully yourself

• Support during hard moments, not withdrawal

• Calm more than chaos

This isn’t about settling.
It’s about not settling for instability disguised as passion.

The most meaningful relationships are the ones where you don’t have to shrink, chase, or question.
They’re built on consistency, clarity, and co-regulation.

So if you’ve been on the tightrope—
Maybe it’s time to find the soft landing.