LINX CONFIDENTIAL

Newsletter #18

Dear Subscriber First Name,

March feels like a natural moment to reset and get clear. I’ve been thinking a lot about what it really means to build partnership in today’s world, especially in a culture that values speed, optimization, and constant forward motion. Over the past few weeks, I’ve had the opportunity to reflect on this in a new way. I was recently featured in Modern Luxury and ELLE, which gave me the chance to talk about the deeper themes I see every day in my work. After more than two decades as a matchmaker, what continues to stand out is not how much has changed in dating, but how much has stayed the same. People don’t actually want more options. They want consistency. They want emotional availability. They want someone who feels calm, reliable, and real in a world that often feels anything but.

At Linx, we talk about values, timing, and emotional readiness. We talk about the difference between something that isn’t right and something that simply feels vulnerable because it matters. The strongest relationships I’ve witnessed are not built through urgency or forcing something that is not meant to be. They’re built  over time, out of respect, letting ego fall to the side, and where vulnerability is welcome and steadiness of communication and behavior is front and center.

I’ve also been thinking about the balance between closeness and individuality. Being together, but still yourself. The healthiest relationships I’ve seen are not about merging identities, but about two whole people choosing one another while continuing to grow and evolve. When rooted in trust, individuality doesn’t weaken connection. It strengthens it.

We’re also very excited to introduce a new East Coast VIP client this month. He embodies  the qualities we value deeply at Linx: emotional intelligence, depth, kindness, ambition, and solid values. 

Affectionately yours,

Amy Andersen

MEET OUR NEWEST EAST COAST VIP

Handsome, 50, and standing 6’3” with an athletic build and Scottish ancestry, this VIP has a quiet magnetism and an easy smile that draws people in. He stays active, loves dogs, and is deeply close to his parents and sister.

A distinguished human rights lawyer and founder of an organization frequently in the national spotlight, he has personally led high-stakes anti-corruption and human rights cases at the highest levels of the U.S. government and against some of the world’s largest corporations. A Rhodes Scholar at Oxford and graduate of Yale Law School, his years navigating the adversarial and highly-scrutinized arena of public life have brought hard-earned lessons. Going forward, he has recently restructured his professional life to work less and prioritize presence, community, and the quieter work of building a life with his partner. 

A self-taught guitarist, he loves everything from New Orleans jazz, soul, reggae, and Afrobeat to Otis Redding, Bob Dylan, Charles Mingus, and Jeff Buckley. He travels for live music, hosts legendary Mardi Gras gatherings with live bands, and collects electric guitars, handmade Turkish carpets, and Native American art.

The people he loves come first. He is loyal, generous, and deeply invested in long-standing friendships, often hosting multi-day beach house gatherings that bring together friends from across the country. He loves cooking elaborate meals and crafting the perfect rye whisky cocktail—always with warmth and joy.

An adventurer at heart, he has explored the U.S., Canada, and Australia by 4x4, once canoed 1,200 miles across the Canadian Arctic tundra, and remains an avid fisherman, bow hunter, skier and scuba diver. He speaks Spanish, travels widely, and recently filed his first patent for a wind-proof off-road camping awning.

Divorced a year ago and respectful of his former spouse, he remains family-oriented and hopes to become a father, whether through pregnancy, surrogacy, or adoption. Drawn to Buddhism, he recently traveled to India to meet the Dalai Lama. Thoughtful and self-aware, he is both introspective and playful, equally at home in deep conversation or spontaneous laughter. He is open to relocating for love.

And who is the woman who might inspire him? A woman 30–50 who is naturally attractive, warm-faced, kind, and able to see others’ perspectives with empathy and understanding. She is intelligent, witty, playful, emotionally grounded, spiritually inclined in her own way, and family-centric at heart. She values meaningful connection and maintains close friendships, surrounding herself with people who bring warmth, depth, and joy into her life. A free spirit with strong values, she seeks a partnership built on mutual respect, depth, curiosity, and shared growth, someone ready for both adventure and a meaningful life together.

If you or anyone you know might make an exceptional candidate for this VIP client, please submit your information here. There are NO fees for qualified candidates to meet our client.

To protect our VIP client’s privacy, the image is a stock photo chosen for its physical similarity.

TOGETHER, BUT STILL YOURSELF

A conversation that comes up in relationships today is the idea of intentionally balancing closeness with individuality. Some people refer to this as the difference between romantic monogamy and social monogamy: being emotionally and physically committed to one partner while still maintaining independent interests, friendships, and pursuits.

Healthy relationships do not require two people to merge into one identity. In fact, the most vibrant partnerships typically come from individuals who continue to grow, explore, and bring new energy back into the relationship. When each person maintains a sense of self, there is more to share, more to discover, and more to admire in one another over time.

Individual passions, personal rituals, and platonic friendships create space for reflection and renewal. They allow each partner to stay connected to what inspires and energizes them, rather than relying on the relationship to fulfill every single emotional need. This balance often leads to greater appreciation and longing, because time apart can deepen the enjoyment of time together.

Trust plays a central role in making this dynamic work. Space, when rooted in trust, does not weaken connection, it strengthens it. When done correctly, space allows two people to feel chosen, not obligated, and to return to one another with intention rather than habit.

Partnership is not about losing yourself in someone else, it’s about building a shared life while continuing to grow as individuals. The strongest relationships are formed by two whole people walking forward together, with curiosity, respect, and a sense of freedom alongside their meaningful commitment. 

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